logans_girl2001: (Dean)
I know I haven't posted in like forever, not counting the Snowflake challenge responses, but I found TikTok (same username, if you're wondering) and have enjoyed being able to just make a quick video whenever I have something I want to talk about.

But recently, something happened that is making me not want to post over there any longer. And since I don't know how it happened, I refuse to allow it to happen again.

My daughter got engaged in October and quickly settled on March 2024 for her wedding date. Her fiance is an HVAC tech, and she's a hairdresser. Her busy time is around the holidays (September to December), and his is summer.

At Christmas, I asked her if she still wanted me to walk her down the aisle (back when she was considering going no contact with her father, she said she wanted me to walk her since I'm the one who actually raised her). She turned to me and said, 'I will not have anyone walk me down the aisle because that is an outdated, misogynistic custom. I am not property to be given away' in a very nasty voice. I feel like if we had been alone or outside, she would have screamed it at me, that's how forcefully she said it.

I backed off and didn't say anything else about it. Later in the day, I saw her talking to my sister-in-law (a woman she has stated to me that she does not like). When they finished talking, my daughter approached my dad, and when I looked back at my SIL, she winked at me.

I later found out that my SIL had talked her into asking my dad to walk her down the aisle.

She did not ask him at Christmas. She asked if she could take him to lunch on New Year's Day. She asked him then.

I made a post on TikTok about how this hurt my feelings because we had previously discussed me doing that and how adamantly she stated that she was not going to have someone walk her down the aisle. I never once said she owed me anything or that she couldn't have my dad walk her down the aisle. I merely stated that I was hurt that she all but shouted me down about this tradition and then went and asked my dad to do it.

People came to my comments and told me I was being selfish. How? All I did was tell a bunch of strangers how it hurt to know my daughter didn't want to have this special moment with me. If, when I asked, she had said, 'I think I want Granddaddy to walk me' I wouldn't have been as hurt. But I went online because I was not going to let her know my feelings had been hurt by this because I didn't think she should know.

Before I go on, I should mention that when we went dress shopping (my mother, his mother, and one of his aunts (I want to say his sister, too, but I can't remember), we went to lunch after. During lunch, the conversation turned to what she was going to do for her something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. I mentioned that I have something for her something blue that I've had since 2007 (we went on a Disney cruise and got a couple of sapphire chips). I planned to have them turned into earrings that I would present to her on her wedding day as she gets dressed. She snapped, 'I'm not removing my earrings' (she wears a pair of sapphire studs that are the first gift he ever gave her, as well as a pair of opal studs he gave her for her last birthday). So, there are now two special moments that she has shut down before they could even take place.

She has stated numerous times that she'll be getting ready at another of his aunt's house because she lives close to the venue. Both she and my mother have said that my mother and I will arrive at the venue fully dressed. She also told me that I have to do my own hair and makeup, not that I expected her hair and makeup person to do me (although I got my hair done at the same time and by the same person who did my SIL and I wasn't in the wedding party).

I made another post saying that I was beginning to feel like she didn't want me to be involved in her wedding. By this time, I had also offered to officiate, but she asked her therapist instead.

There was also a comment I made about the cake tasting. She seems to be under the impression that the pieces provided are going to be just one or two bites each (I think they're usually enough for three or four bites especially if everyone uses a fork and takes just a small amount). I said that if there is a flavor I don't think I'll like, I won't taste it, leaving more for everyone else. She blew up; demanding to know which flavors. Then she hung up on me (but told my mother she thinks I hung up on her (I have moved, and my new place is in a bit of a dead zone (I rarely have more than one bar)) so my mother says the call must have dropped).

Someone (his mother most likely) found my videos and showed them to her so she canceled Mother's Day plans. When I called my mother, she yelled at me for 'airing our dirty laundry on the internet'. I was supposed to go to my grandmother's (she lives much closer than my parents now) to do my laundry a couple of days later but didn't want there to be any tension, so I said I'd find somewhere else to do my laundry and hung up.

My mother sent me several long winded texts, pretending to take some blame but really not because she is emotionally abusive. I didn't reply because I didn't (and still don't) want to argue about this.

I did not text or call my daughter during this time because I was respecting her boundaries.

I have allowed my daughter and her fiance to have my Hulu and Netflix passwords and decided that if my daughter had not texted or called by the end of the month, then I would change the passwords and remove them from my accounts and consider myself uninvited from her wedding.

But she texted me yesterday. So, I called my mother.

She forced me into the argument I had been trying to avoid. I told her that she does not get to tell me how I use my social media accounts. She tried saying that she understands that I use it to vent but said that I shouldn't turn off comments or block people (only people I have blocked are my soon-to-be son-in-law, his mother, and the women I work with (I do not friend coworkers on social media)).

The colors my daughter has settled on are sage green and lavender (she had originally said sapphire blue since sapphire is her birthstone but changed it since it's a spring-ish wedding). I had already made a wishlist of sapphire blue dresses (I'm in the process of losing weight so won't be buying my dress until much closer to the wedding). I now need to find sage green or lavender (she has not said which color she wants me to wear).

Today she texted saying that we need to start looking for me a dress. I told her that since I'm buying my own, it will be one I can wear again and will be bought from a regular store (AKA off the rack). She said she didn't say it had to be tailored, but she wants the dress issue settled by Christmas. I didn't reply, but I will not have my dress by then, and she can just deal with it. Especially, since I don't feel like this is something I have to adhere to since my size will most likely change between Christmas and her wedding. In MARCH!
logans_girl2001: (Default)
I'm coming out of my self imposed exile from the internet to ask for help in giving my daughter a great Christmas. I've signed up for GoFundMe. Please click the link below to donate. Anyone who gives $20 or more will get a story written just for them in the fandom and for the pairing of their choosing. Please contact me with any questions.


logans_girl2001: (Danny facepalm)
So I did something I swore I'd never do: I read my daughter's journal.

And found out that she's had sex with more than one guy. So she lied about that. And has had boys over when I'm not home. Lied about that, too. Also, she's thinking of being fuck buddies with some guy.

I tried calling my mother but they're at the Rangers game and she didn't seem concerned.

I have no idea what to do. I can't do surprise visits to the house to see if my daughter is obeying the rule of 'no boys in the house'. Times like this I wish I was rich.

Does anyone have any suggestions?
logans_girl2001: (Steve really?)
My daughter's choir is going to New York in two weeks so tonight was the parent's meeting.

On the way home we were stopped at a red light waiting to turn right. The middle lane was empty and there was a car in the left lane waiting to turn left.

I was not paying any attention to the other cars, other than the ones in front of us because when they turned, then I can turn. All of a sudden the driver in the left lane put their car in reverse and backed up SUPER FAST.

And THAT'S when I noticed that it's a cop car. My heart started pounding and my daughter, who is getting ready to learn how to drive, asked what I did wrong. I put my blinker on and was worried I was going to get a ticket, not that I did anything wrong (my car is only a year old so the registration and inspection is current) but the cop never turned his lights on so I felt I was okay.

The cars in front of me turned and when it was my turn I was doing my best to follow all the rules, luckily the light we were at has a right turn arrow.

As soon as I turned, the cop went flying past me. I breathed a sigh of relief that I wasn't in trouble. But even so, my daughter said, "Well, that just happened." And I couldn't agree with her more.
logans_girl2001: (Rodney - Ooh!)
As y'all know, I live in Texas and we don't get much in the way of winter weather.

With the exception of February 2011 it hasn't truly snowed since I was a young child. They've been predicting snow for about a week now and I wasn't inclined to believe them. But it is snowing right now.

I don't see it sticking to anything other than trees, grass, cars and buildings since it has been so warm, but that doesn't matter to Vic. It appears she's more excited about the snow that's not gonna be around for more than a day than she is about the TV and phone I got her for Christmas.

Oh, and Merry Christmas (or whichever winter holiday you celebrate) and Happy New Year to each and everyone of you.

Now with bonus pictures!

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logans_girl2001: (Dean)
The one thing I can count on is that Vic's sperm donor doesn't come to her choir concerts because they're during the week and he 'has to go to work the next morning'.

Until tonight that is.

it wouldn't be so bad if my parents didn't act that the asshole hung the moon and if my mother didn't fawn all over his ugly ass kids when she's not even related to them.
logans_girl2001: (John WTF?)
So last Friday I sent Rob that email. When I read it to Vic she told me it was wonderfully sarcastic and even though she was afraid he'd get angry with her she thought it was wonderful.

She was supposed to go to his house, it was his actual weekend, but when she texted him he said he was 'unaware' it was his weekend and April was already home. She calls and the conversation was mostly her saying things like 'I had no idea her schedule had changed'. She had to have said that at least ten times in the two or three minutes they talked.

Well, she wanted to go, not sure why since he doesn't even really like her half the time, so I took her. Shortly after I got back home I got a text from her saying he was refusing to pay for her surgery, dance and/or choir trip. Oh, and he also had an argument with my mother.

I called Mom to get her side of things and was told he was insisting he was only paying $50 for the surgery.

So I texted him and what follows is the conversation I had with him/April.Just cause )
logans_girl2001: (Default)
Remember when I posted about how much of an ass my ex is and how I told him if he won't give me his part of the payment for Vic's surgery he can pay her dance and choir trip? Well, he never responded to that email and as of yesterday I still haven't received his payment in the mail. If I don't receive his payment tomorrow I'll be emailing, or texting, this:

Rob, since I haven’t received your part of the payment for Victoria’s surgery yet, nor did you respond to my last email last week, I’m going to ahead and assume you’ve decided to take the other option I gave you and pay her dance and choir trip.

Excellent choice!

Now, her dance is due Monday and is $105. Unfortunately there is no other way to pay this than to give Victoria the check/money order made out to Beth Ramsey. I will make sure she puts it in her dance bag as soon as you drop her off Sunday and that she remembers to give it to Beth Monday night. This payment is due at the end of every month so on one of the weekends you have her, just give her the payment.

Now, for the choir trip, we don’t know the total yet. Once we do, I will be sure to let you know. You’re in luck that this one has a website where you can pay and I will get you that information as well.

I just want to say that I really appreciate you taking over this financial burden for me. I was NOT looking forward to paying for her choir trip. Because since it’s in New York this year the payments will be close to, if not more THAN, $200. Especially since I’m planning on going as well. Can you imagine how much I’d have had to pay if you hadn’t agreed to pay this for me?

Again, thank you for taking on both of these payments for me. It shows real maturity and growth on your part.

What I wouldn't give to see his face when he reads that.

Grrrrr

Aug. 16th, 2012 03:47 am
logans_girl2001: (Speed pissed)
My ex is such an ass.

I called him, actually I called the new wife since her and I can 'talk' without yelling, to tell him that I received the first statement and that I need his payment soon. He emailed me at 8 last night, not sure how he got my email address, to ask for the information of the loan company.

Since I'm using this as an opportunity to get reimbursed for the $1000 I paid for his truck I'm refusing to give them that information.

He's now refusing to pay because of that. I've told him the company will only accept payment from me, which is not a lie because I did ask, and said I can get him a receipt if he's worried about it not going to the bill. I've also told him that since he's refusing to pay this, which he's saying he's not but he is (he said so), I told him he has to pay for Vic's dance and choir trip. Both of those together is going to be well over $200. Not sure of the exact total because we don't know how much the trip payments will be yet but since the trip's to New York it'll most likely be $200 or more and her dance is $105. So actually those payments will probably be over $300.
logans_girl2001: (Default)
So, two weeks ago I got an email from Vic's dance teacher stating that her class would now be 5-8 Mondays and Thursdays. I asked to change my schedule at work in order to get Vic to class in time. It was approved, luckily I have an understanding boss. My schedule changed from 7-4:30 Monday-Thursday and 7-11 on Fridays to 7-4 Mondays and Thursdays and 7-12 on Fridays to make up the lost hour.

My question is, should I just leave my schedule as is, or change it back?
logans_girl2001: (Speed pissed)
So, my ex came by to check on Vic. Everything was going fine until Vic asked about her half-brothers. He said one was playing/sleeping and the other was playing. She asked which was which and he said, "Christopher was on the floor playing with your mom." I went o_O and asked, "Did you just call April her mother?" He nodded and said, "I did." I told him, "How dare you come into my house and call another woman my daughter's mother!?" He tired to say it was the first time but I know it wasn't. There's no way it would have fallen from his lips that easily if it was. Not to mention there was a time when Vic would get punished if she didn't call April 'Mom'. It would be different if I wasn't around but I am, and I have full custody. Rob only has visitation rights.
logans_girl2001: (Steve really?)
So Vic asked me to tape her while doped up. I posted it here and on Facebook, because I know that's what she wanted (she mentioned the video of the boy after his dental appointment). One of my Facebook friends is my mother's best friend. She called my mother to tell her that it's in poor taste. To prove it's not, I showed it to my mother, who said it is in poor taste. That's her opinion. I think it's funny. My mother wants me to remove it. Like hell will I do that.

Oh, and she's been sitting in Vic's room holding on to her ankle for the past two hours. I remember when I had my wisdom teeth out she hardly did anything for me, changed the ice pack and that's about it. She even had one of those cookie bouquets delivered and made me answer the door. And the delivery guy was beyond cute and there I was looking like I had the mumps.

*snicker*

Jul. 20th, 2012 12:06 pm
logans_girl2001: (Default)
Vic had her wisdom teeth out today and I must admit she's hilarious when stoned. Wonder if I should video tape the next time I change her ice packs. Hm.

Anyway, I just now changed them and she said, "They took my tongue, Mama. They were only supposed to take my teeth." She even started crying.

ETA: She asked me to video her talking.

logans_girl2001: (Speed pissed)
Please tell me if this counts as 'celebrating' my birthday: Telling me that we're going to a restaurant I've never even hinted I want to eat at because my aunt who lives out of town wants to eat there or having Vic and I over for lunch, taking me to a movie (telling me to pick then arguing about my choice) and then presenting me with a completely different cake from the one I asked for (when asked to tell them what kind I wanted).

See, my birthday is July 5, sucks majorly because of the holiday. I have never had a party on my birthday with my friends (the ones my mother 'threw' for me at the camp grounds don't count because none of my friends were there) and when I did get my party it was usually almost August, one time it was August.

My mother is trying, well her form of trying, and when I mentioned that it doesn't matter (I've finally given up on getting that day where the people who are supposed to love me most in the world show just how thrilled they are that I was born) she got offended and tried to tell me I was wrong. She mentioned the restaurant and I told her it wasn't my choice so I don't think it counts as actually doing something for my birthday. Especially since it was presented to me like this: "Hey, Ann wants to eat at Texas Roadhouse so we thought we'd turn that into your party. That's okay, isn't it?"

Then I was ignored by everyone at the table. Except for when I was opening my gifts. Then they made fun of the gag gift I got, and Madisson stole it (my mother actually gave it to her because she was starting to throw a fit when I told her no).

Also, Vic has to have her wisdom teeth out, yes all four. It's gonna cost well over two thousand dollars. Insurance only pays half. And the dentist doesn't finance. They did give me a website to apply for credit on. I called my mother after and told her this. And was reminded that I just don't matter in her world (as in she never listens to a word I say).

I had to tell her several times that I applied for the maximum I was told the surgery would cost, just in case the quote I got today was too low, and will only need to use half of the credit I was given. I have a year to pay it off with no interest. I also said several time that I plan on getting Rob to sign a contract stating just how much he has to pay me, since he insists we're supposed to split any out of pocket costs.

So, this is going to be a usual birthday for me, working and trying to tell myself that it doesn't matter that the people who are supposed to be making me feel special obviously really don't care. Think if I keep saying, "Who needs 'em" enough I'll actually believe it?
logans_girl2001: (Default)
Here are my plans for the weekend:

I was going to go see Prometheus tonight after work but Vic and I have had very little time to watch the shows we watch together so decided to come home instead so we can do that. After she goes to her father’s I’ll catch up on my shows.

Tomorrow I’ll be going to the first showing at Studio Movie Grill, they make a fabulous grill cheese. After that I need to buy some new bras, I currently only have three good ones and when I forget to wash them (like I did Wednesday) I have to wear an old one that doesn’t fit well. I then need to get some office supplies, need a foot stool for under my desk (my foot still swells especially when I wear my ballet flats), some pens (red and black are the only colors provided), pop-up Post-its and a rubber finger tip to help sort papers.

Oh, and I want to stop at Fry’s to see if they have Three Rivers or Dark Blue box sets for sale. And also want to stop at Havertys to see if I can find a price on this arm chair Vic wants for her room. And I need to pay the parental units this month's car payment.

Then on Sunday I plan on cleaning my room and hopefully my bathroom as well.
logans_girl2001: (Default)
Just got home from Vic's last choir concert of the year. This year's theme was television theme songs. her choir did Pink Panther, the song from The Golden Girls and the one from Gilmore Girls. One of the other choirs did the theme from Hawaii Five-0. On the screen they had the opening credits playing. I had been hoping they'd use the ones from the remake but they used the original ones. I'm kicking myself for not having my camera.

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