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So after that spectacular passive-aggressive emotionally abusive mass text from my mother on Sunday (where we learned that my brother is in fact a twelve year-old girl) I was expecting to spend Thursday with just my parents, my niece, her daughter and my daughter.

To avoid having to sit at her house while doing laundry on my holiday weekend, I sent her this text:

Would it be okay if I do my laundry Thursday?

We then had the following conversation:
her:
(1/2) I guess. Marissa is coming so it needs to be very early. Wait if you work I wish you would wait. Victoria could come over Friday and do it. I'll be gl (2/2) ad to pick her up. Lets do that ok. Oh yea you are off yall can do it Friday or Saturday (please to be keeping this statement as to when I can do my laundry in mind)
me:
I was trying to not do it on my days off this week so I can clean my house.
her:
Well I u derstand but I need Thursday to be all about celebration.
me:
So you won't consider getting Victoria and having her do it while I'm at work Thursday?
her:
I guess I could get her Wednesday Hey she can do it Thursday. I would love to have her here. She and Laci and I can start the celebration early

That was all in the morning. I thought it was settled but then at 12 I received the following text:

(1/3) Melissa, I just can't deal with the laundry issue. You may come Friday or Saturday to do the laundry. In fact it is getting to where I need you t (2/3) o use my machines on days when we are not here. Not to be mean just don't want a repeat of the other day. I want to visit with you when you are her (3/3) e not on days where either of us are working

She seems to be under the impression that my not doing laundry when she's home will keep us from arguing.

Then Thursday I got this text from my daughter:

Grandma just called me crying saying that tonight is cancelled. Apparently Amber doesn't want to be around Marissa. She wouldn't tell me why

Then just a few minutes later Vic sent this text:

Nevermind. Me Marissa and Amber are gonna clean the house because amber said grandma left and if she sees all of us together and happy it might help Granddaddy is gonna take me home. You got the group text right?
I texted back: Maybe I want to celebrate with Amber.
her:
Yeah. Her, Marissa and Travis just brought me home. And Amber left with Laci and is probably not coming back tonight
me:
But the email from Grandma says she's celebrating with Amber tonight. What the fuck happened?
her:
Yeah. She doesn't know she left and granddaddy thinks she isn't coming back
I made a comment about us cleaning the house (which we have yet to actually do)
her:
Amber said that she was over this holiday because she's not used to having so many people around and having so many parties to deal with and grandma thought that meant she didn't want to be around anyone and we tried to clean the house and be together for grandma but she refuses to talk to Amber or any of us about trying to fix it so Amber thinks that everything is her fault

See? My mother is so very much an emotional abuser.

During all that with Vic my mother sent this group text to Vic and I:

This Christmas I need to celebrate with my children one at a time. Marissa was already on her way. I will celebrate with her this afternoon, Amber and Laci at 6pm Because of your family time with Victoria, and her time with her Dad, we can celebrate Saturday or Sunday evening at 6pm. Let me know if which if any you choose Love Morher

When I left work I called my mother and asked if Vic and I could come over. She made a passive-aggressive comment about how she doesn't think I'm the one Amber has an issue with. For the record, Amber doesn't have any issues with Marissa, her step-sister (mostly because she doesn't know her). This is all in my mother's head. She's always going on about not wanting us to grow apart and become like the Morris' (my father's side of the family) and yet here she is pushing us away.

Vic and I have a tradition of going to a movie Christmas morning (I started it so that I could always have her in the morning on Christmas Day). So yesterday after we went to our movie (Jennifer Lawrence's new movie Joy) I went to my mother's house to do my laundry because her and my father were supposed to be gone most of the day at his mother's house and she kept telling me to come Friday or Saturday to do it.

I wasn't there long before they came home and the first words out of her mouth were that she didn't want me there and I am to do my laundry on Sundays while they're at church. We then got into a mini argument because I told her that she can't then bitch about me not going to church and she said that she won't because I 'worship in my own way'. I only ever say that when she tries to convince me that because I don't worship the same way she does then I'm not really a Christian.

While I was there my niece was cleaning the house. My mother did that thing people do where they make it seem like they're asking if you want to do something but actually they're telling you to do it by asking me 'Don't you think you should get up and help Amber?' I should have (but for some reason didn't) say, 'No because I don't live here so this isn't my mess'.

She then said that if I'm going to do my laundry at her house then I'll be expected to do things around the house. I don't live at her house, I don't contribute to the mess therefore I should not be forced to clean it. So I decided that I'll just do my laundry at the laundromat. After doing some research I discovered that it'll only cost about $6-$10 to do all my loads and if I can get in when there is no one else I can use more than one machine and possibly get it all done at once.

So then this morning I received this from my mother:

(1/4) I realize that Friday was not the time to talk about your laundry day. I want you to come on Sunday. You may dust my house one week, cook lunch the ne (2/4) xt week, and then repeat the process. Or you may do my laundry and either cook occasionally or dust. Of course I will provide the food and would lov (3/4) e for you and are Victoria to stay and eat and visit with us. There will be sometime when we will have other plans . I would please like a respon (4/4) se to this text

Then just a few minutes later she sent this one which tells me that Amber told her about my outburst after she left:

(1/3) And I do not hate you. I was so hurt that you would watch me on last Saturday work so hard to get ready for Sunday, and then watch Amber and let a new f (2/3) riend help her. You and Victoria need to learn to give and serve others. I know you have kind and gentle heart they are just buried it seems. I lov (3/3) e you both so very much

At this point I am so fucking done it's not funny. I am not responding to any of these texts and I'm not telling her I'm going to do my laundry someplace else. And I sure as fuck am going to try my best to get along without her assistance.