Question

I've been asked out on a date for tonight. The guy just called to confirm. He has a thick accent, which is not a problem as I can mostly understand him.

What is a problem is he told me he's Greek Orthodox. If you don't know, that means he's Catholic. I'm Southern Baptist. And I want a church wedding the next time around and if I were to fall for a Catholic man that would not be possible because I refuse to convert to Catholicism and most Catholics, especially any of the Orthodox ones, will not get married in any church that isn't a Catholic one.

So, my question is: should I still go or should I call and cancel? I do feel a headache coming so I wouldn't really be lying.

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So the date didn't happen. Here's what happened.

He called around 5:30 and we talked for a few minutes. All the questions he asked me had one word answers. He then asked if I had any questions for him and I said no. And I didn't because I wanted to have something to talk about over dinner. We agreed to meet at the restaurant at 7 and hung up.

He called right back to make sure I didn't think he hung up on me. And then started ranting about how I wasn't asking him any questions (is this a date or a job interview?) and all my answers were one word leaving him feeling like he was talking to a machine.

So I said, "If you're feeling uncomfortable about this then maybe we should just leave it here." And he said, "Okay. Good-bye." and hung up.

Not sure if I'm upset about this or not and here's why.

He would take two or three days to reply to my messages on the site where we met and each time he'd reply I got the feeling he expected me to fall down at his feet that he deigned to message me. So on April 9 I send this message:

Hi. I just put your number in my phone but want to say before we start 'talking' that I've had guys text/message me and then 'disappear' for days at a time and if you're one of those guys who takes a day or two to reply, then I don't think this will work.

See, I'm looking for a husband and that man has to respect me as a person and I feel like not replying for a day or two is extremely disrespectful. It makes me feel like the other person doesn't see me as a person and that they don't care about my feelings.

I'm not saying this to turn you off. I just want to be up front and honest with you because looking back over our 'conversation' I've replied rather quickly, other than the Easter greetings, but you've not responded as quickly. The last two replies were two and three days, respectfully, after mine.

I'm not asking you to text me constantly, just within a few hours of when I text you.

If you're still interested my number is [redacted].

He replied back five and a half hours later:

Yes I am still interested to keep in touch by texting or emailing but I am sorry to say its not true because I did not or could not reply to you soon was disrespecting you. I would like to make this clear this if we become best friend in future.

That you know each of us has his/her own life style or personal life full of the work schedule, appointments and a lot of responsibilities on the daily bases in order to survive in this tough world!!. For example if anything goes wrong in your life such work change, or health issue or parents needs or bad day I think we need to take these things to our consideration.

My point is if some day I am not able to reply soon you should not consider it automatically disrespect!. I believe a true respect should be always based on taking our situation to consideration no matter what!? My email: [redacted]
I will text you some time tomorrow. By the way you did not give me your name yet! (I did when I replied to his very first message)

Regards,
[redacted]

I read that and feel like he's telling me that my opinions and feelings don't matter (and that he doesn't really pay attention to anything I say because he totally missed me introducing myself) but I decided to let it go because I'm tired of being alone.

And then yesterday he asked me out for tonight so I went to ask my younger co-workers if they thought I should go, last time I was dating it was bad form to ask a person out the day before, and they all said I should be glad he didn't ask me out for last night.

So we agreed to go to Abuelo's, a Tex-Mex restaurant. I told him there's one up the road from my house and he asked for directions. I sent him the link to their website and told him my zip code so he could find it. He texted back that it didn't work for him so he'd call them.

Then he called me and that's when I discovered his accent, he said he was born in Europe but didn't say exactly where but since he's Greek Orthodox (and judging by his accent) I'd say Greece. He asked me for Abuelo's number and I told him I could tell him how to get there.

He said he was coming south on I35 so I gave him perfect directions (take the exit after Round Grove, make a u-turn at the 121 by-pass light, Abuelo's will be on your right as you're now going north on the service road). He said he really didn't understand but he'd do what he could.

When he called after 5 he said that he didn't really get my directions so he called the restaurant and got better ones. Not sure how when mine were most likely the same. But whatever.

Again I got the distinct impression that he feels like women can't really do anything right and that I didn't know what I was talking about, when trying to figure out where the restaurant is before I gave him directions he said that Lewisville is between Carrollton (the town I live in) and Frisco, it's not. Lewisville is on the other side of Carrollton. I've lived here my whole life so I should know this.

I think I'm gonna go with not upset because the more I think about all this the more I hear the misogyny. And the older I get the more I feel like I deserve total respect from my life partner and to be treated like an equal.

ETA: Oh, and when I went to Wal-Mart to buy minutes for my phone, I picked up some left over Easter candy. For $.10 a piece!